But several definite steps must be taken by a couple before they may marry. They are baptized into the Amish faith and are responsible for following the Ordnung.The Ordnung is a written and unwritten set of rules for daily living.The most typical gatherings are “singings.” Groups meet in a home and sing German hymns and English gospel songs for several hours and then enjoy a time of conversation and food.A dating couple may exchange letters and see each other mainly on weekends.When the girl’s family returns from church, the daughter formally introduces her fiance to her parents.After being published, the young people have just a few days before the ceremony.
The girl also helps her mother prepare for the wedding and feast which takes place in her parents’ home.
They are unadorned, there is no fancy trim or lace and there is never a train.
Most non-Amish brides wear their bridal dress once, but an Amish bride’s practical dress will serve her for more than just her wedding day.
Joining the church prepares the young people for the seriousness of setting up their own home.
The young man asks his girl to marry him, but he does not give her a diamond. The couple keeps their intentions secret until July or August.